Have you ever dated a guy and found you are thinking and worrying about stuff like why he is not calling, what he thinks of you, or if you’re really in love with him?
You know, when your mind goes blah-blah-blah about big and small things…
Oh, friend, all that thinking is exhausting for you! What’s more, it puts your relationship at risk! You’re focussing all your energy on worrying instead of just living in the moment.
According to Gerald Klerman and Myrna Weissman, from Columbia University, our generation is the most depressed ever. The reason? Because we can live and be however we want. I know, it’s weird, right? Apparently, our grandma’s life was way much easier, since society “told” her to get married in her early 20s, have children and so on.
So what can you do if you have become a “thinkaholic” who spends valuable time repeating a lot of worries in your head?
It’s easy! Here are some tricks:
1. Become aware of the thoughts, how they look and when they tend to enter your head. Tell yourself they are not for real, but just created by you.
2. Learn how to swap negative thoughts for positive ones. If you for example think “I’m not sure if he wants to meet me again”, think instead “We had a good time – I’d like to see him again”.
3. Every time you find yourself worrying, say “stop” and distract your mind. Go for a run or do a crossword, something that forces you away from the worried thoughts.
4. Don’t talk about it with friends! The more you talk about your worries, the worse they get. If you are going to chat with your chicks, think “solutions” instead of “problems”.
5. Enjoy yourself and smile!
By Carolin Dahlman