Bringing sexy back
"Sexy" moves to skip
As you’ve probably figured out by now, men aren’t that complicated. All we really need to be seduced is a ready-and-willing look on your face. It is nice though, when you do special things like light a candle or put on slow tunes. Unfortunately, not all your tactics have the desired effect. Here’s what can backfire when attempting to get a guy fired up.
Trying Too Hard
When you go overboard hinting how much you love a good “hot dog” or slurping the “head” off your beer ---- wink, wink --- it can some off as scripted and forced. “Everytime my girl starts teasing me with porn star talk, I know she’s doing it because she think I want her to,” says Adam, 27. “But it’s way more of a turn-on when she says sexy things spontaneously.
Not Letting Thing Unfold Organically
We appreciate your spending a week secretly plotting how to ravage us, but it’s a bummer when you can’t deviate from a predetermined passion [plan. Maybe you bought 300-million threadcount sheets and cooked a romantic four-course meal, but If the pork loin burns and we start hooking up on the couch, just roll with it. It may not be the night you expected, but trust us, as long a we’re getting some, well think the night is perfect.
Using Excess Props
We’re psyched when you whip out, say, a flavoured condom or buzzing toy. But break out a sex shop’s worth of inventory in one night (especially if we haven’t seen most of it before) and all those bells and whistles distract from the big draw: you. Not to mention, they make him wonder if he’s even a necessary part of your sexual equation. “I’ll admit it I get freaked out when a girl pulls out an entire toolbox of party favours,” says Ryan, 26. “I can’t help but look down and wonder what parts I’m missing that she obviously needs.
Going Too Far in Public
For some guys, being supernaughty around a bunch of strangers is kind of like using cutesy nicknames or watching Oprah --- we’d like it better if there weren’t a risk of getting busted. Women forget that men can’t easily conceal excitement, as Dave, 25, can attest: “I dated this girl who used to rub my crotch with her foot under the table. I never minded it until we were late dor a movie one night and I had to leave a restaurant with a tent popped in my pants. Now I’m practically PDA-phobic.”