Cliteracy Class

Turn him into a sex genius

When it comes to plotting the exact geographical coordinates of your magic button, it’s amazing hoe “ill-cliterate” many guys are.  But with help from sex theripst Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First, he'll get his bearings and be a vaginal Einstein in no time...

“In my 10 years of working as a sex therapist, I’ve asked thousands of men where the clitoris is and more than half of them reckon its located deep inside the vagina. That may not come as  much shock – chance are, you’ve been with guys who cearly  have no idea.  You can blame this on everything from locker-room myths, to ex-girlfriends who’ve faked it, to hoe mind-boggling the female body can be for men.

"Even if a man makes it into the vicinity of this important pleasure zone , he might still  miss the mark – because he’s too nervous to really check you out down there or he just doesn’t know how to stroke right. If your partner’s what I call ill-cliterate, don’t write him off as a lost cause – there are ways to school him gently on the techniques that make your toes curl.  Try these techniques..."

Finetune his touch

During foreplay, guide his hand to your clitoris, and show him how to touch you using the rhythm and firmness you like.  Men are goal-orientated, so they often figure that the faster and harder they work it down there, the more powerful your orgasm will be.  This why its important for you to set the tone.
Try pressing and releasing his fingertip against your clitoris several times, and then use his finger to make small circles in either direction to hit all your nerves.  For a twist that’ll turn you both on, lie facing each other, take his penis, and use the tip of it to demonstrate how you like clitoris to be touched.

Overhaul his oral

The oral-sex motto of most blokes is “stay the course” – continuing the same stroke over and over.  But while a consistent rhythm is important, your nerves grow numb to repeated sensations after a while, so he needs to diversify.
One way to ensure the speed and intensity are varied is to have him place his lips around your clitoris ( making sure to cover his teeth), and alternate between gently sucking it and teasing it with his tongue,  as he’s doing this, press and grind your plebvis against his mouth to show him the pressure you desire.

Manipulate his moves

When it comes to intercourse, it’s easy to let clitoral action fall by the wayside, since the majority of positions fail to hit that spot.  But this lack of contact is the main reason why so many women have trouble reaching orgasm through penetration.
For clitoral stimulation in the missionary position, grab his bum, and guide him to thrust deeply (so you clitoris rubs against his pelvic bone).  During doggy-style, he can reach around with one hand and press two fingers on your clitoris for added sensation while he thrust to help take you over the edge.