Cosmo Q&A

Do we have a future?

Author, blogger, TV and radio presenter - whatever you want to call her, Samantha Brett is, above all, Australia's number one dating and relationships guru. If you have a question on men and sex for Sam, submit it below. Fun, honest, helpful answers guaranteed!

Question:

I've been with my boyfriend for four months now, we talk about the future and how we plan to be together but I still don't feel important to him! I always ask to see him. He doesn't make me feel like he's interested. Is this just me being selfish?

Answer:

Lucille, luckily for you there’s an easy way to get a guy to act more interested. But firstly, you’ll need to understand this. Men are genetically created to be “hunters”. In other words, they thrive on actually having to hunt for their girlfriend, rather than her laying it all out on a plate for them. That becomes boring to them. It’s not your fault either – women have been told time and time again that it’s okay to call and ask a man out, it’s just that we can tend to go overboard. The trick here is to give him his space and let him come to you and “hunt” you for a little while. Pull back ever so subtly but surely, and you’ll notice the shift immediately.

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