Cosmopolitan

Food for thought: Today is the tomorrow you were worried about yesterday.

My boyfriend broke up with me after being together for six years, telling me he could no longer see me in his future and that he couldn't give me what I wanted - kids, marriage etc. Obviously it was a very hard pill to swallow and I am still trying to come to terms with it. What I don't understand is that he went out a week after we broke up, hooked up with some random and they are now in a relationship. Yet he still calls/texts me almost daily and wants to see me at least once or twice a week. When I have confronted him and asked him about us, he says he can't see us getting back together and that he doesn't want a relationship at the moment, so why is he in one? Two months ago I was his girlfriend, now I am the other girl. What am I meant to do???H

 Is it possible that this situation has the potential to change your life for the better? Your boyfriend was honest with you about his feelings. Imagine if he had gone along with your needs of marriage and a family, and then wanted a divorce, as it wasn't what he really wanted? At times of relationship challenges, a period of "me" time is helpful.
Relationships are high maintenance.  A break up is an opportunity to take time out to better care of ourselves. Join a meditation class, or pursue a longing to write or express yourself creatively. Get to know and love yourself for a change! Do an image make over. Be too busy having fun, and exploring more of the world to spend time with this guy. He is doing what he wants.

My boyfriend is going to Ecuador for a wedding and Columbia for the bachelor's party. Do I have to be so worried or am I just being selfish? His friends emailed him about how they will be having the best quality of everything (and I mean everything) in Columbia. Now I can't stop thinking about what he will be doing. Am I being petty for thinking I have something to worry about? He has said he is not looking for anything and he wouldn't give up what we have but I don't know what to think anymore.

The law of attraction is operating for us all the time. What we think about, we often bring about. So send your boyfriend off on his trip feeling totally relaxed and happy. Give him a meaningful gift such as a small healing crystal he can carry for attracting safe and happy travel experiences. While he is away, concentrate on you being happy whatever you are doing. When in touch with him via email etc be authentically happy that he is having this trip. Worrying is like praying for what you don't want. Don't go there.