You probably know that men get turned on by visual stimuli. What you may not realise is how much you can amp up your guy’s pleasure by exploiting his innate craving for eye candy. “The link between what men see and arousal is an evolutionary holdover from prehistoric times, when the first guy to spot an available, responsive female was the one who got to mate with her,” says certified sexologist Robert W. Birch, PhD.
Thankfully, courtship has progressed since then, but men still respond primally to an optical thrill. Use that fact to eroticise your encounters at any time, from pre-foreplay to mid-shag. Start with these tantalising tips from top sexperts...and don’t forget to leave the lights on!
Before the bedroom - Flash him a glimpse of you in your bra and panties in the morning, when his testosterone is at its peak.
- Seductively lick a dab of food off your lips or finger. He’ll imagine what that tongue would feel like on him.
- Draw attention to your sexiest parts with jewellery, like a pendant that grazes your cleavage or a belly ring to bring his gaze down south.
- Get undressed in another room, but stay in his line of sight. He’ll feel like he’s sneaking a forbidden peek of you stripping down.
During foreplay - Prop a mirror in front of your bed, sit your guy down, straddle him, then start making out. Watching the action – plus the intoxicating sight of you from behind – will spark his lust.
- Grab his hand and guide it to your hot spots, leaving an arm’s length between you so he can see your body and face as your arousal increases.
- Get into the 69 position, lying on your sides, then encourage him just to rest his head on your inner thigh and enjoy the scenery.
During the deed - Keep a piece of clothing on, like a skirt or a pair of super-high heels, to give your interlude a can’t-wait-to-get-it-on urgency.
- As you’re bobbing up and down on top, rub your hands all over your torso, squeezing your breasts together to create awesome cleavage.
- On top, turn around to face his feet, brace yourself with your hands, then arch your spine and drop your head back, letting your hair spill across his chest. Limber chicks might get so far over that they make eye contact with his upside down. Now that’s an image he will never forget...or want to.