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Forum: Love & Sex
 my boyfriend wont have sex with me
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pamela_t
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31-October-2009 13:25
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Hello, I have been seeing my boyfriend for about 6 months. He lives by himself and has no other commitments other than work.
Lately he has been making excuses for not having sex, like "i need to tidy up" or "i need to put the washing on". When I spoke to him about it he says he is just stressed and doesn't "need" to have sex all the time. I have told him that sex is important to me but nothing seems to change.
What else can I do?
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turquoisemosaic
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04-November-2009 16:18
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I had the same thing with an ex. It bothered me a lot at the time too, but looking back through the eyes of experience, I now see it was probably a combination of two things. Firstly, my ex exercised ALL the time. He was very competitive, and I think now that because he was using so much testosterone and energy, he didn't feel very horny at the end of the day. Secondly, I think that we were growing apart .and he didn't feel close to me anymore. There might be something else going on though.
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turquoisemosaic
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04-November-2009 16:27
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Maybe he has some self-esteem issues, or is stressed about something, or is unwell. If he's lost his libido, he's probably embarassed and is scared of failing when it comes to having sex. Boys can be very sensitive sometimes about these kind of things. Maybe try to talk to him about what's going on in his life (and if there is nothing, that also might be the problem), and see what he needs. He might just need some space, or some loving, or someone to tell him how great he is.
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