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Opposites (don't) attract

Two steps forward, two steps back - opposites attract, right? Not according to a new study, which suggests that we actually seek out partners similar to ourselves.

The study, conducted at the University of Groningen and published in the journal Evolutionary Psychology, revealed that couples were more compatible when they had a similar mix of personality traits.

"Although many individuals occasionally feel attracted to 'opposites'...they often do not develop into serious intimate relationships, and when they do, these relationships often end prematurely," says researcher Professor Pieternel Dijkstra.

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    They only thing that they need to share are the same values. Opposites can be complimentary and can harmonise well to learn from each other and grow.
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    Does it really matter? As long as two people are happy, in love, and attempt to live in harmonious situations, is all that really matters imo. Do you really care what other people who don't know each of you as an individual think? Not I.
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    My partner and I were exact opposites, and we loved each other very much, but ended up we were so opposite our lives took very different paths. Opposite personalities I agree can attract, but people need to match in terms of where they want to be or else it will never work , unless one of them is willing to go with their needs unmet
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    IOpposites can be dynamically opposing forces which may cause relationships to end, whether short or long term. Too much similarity can also lead so stagnation. It is the human factor which ultimately determines whether a relationship will continue or not. Compatability is based on much more than scientific values based on opposing personalities. It probably boils down to values and fundemental needs and desires which can be fulfilled by both parties to a mutual benefit.
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    Like the magnet, it's hard to bring like together.Opposites might have the attraction but once together like can combine and walk in stride better
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