Saturday, November 05, 2011
Is funny sexy?
So I hear funny is the new sexy. Which I really hope is true.
Mostly cos it means people are learning to look beyond exteriors for a little somethin’ somethin’ more. Which excites me, and not just because I’m hoping I’ll get extra dates out of it (although I kind of am), but because there’s more to sexual attraction that the meeting of mutual humps. Even if those humps are perky and delicious. In fact, look at Hollywood’s favourite hunky dories and you’ll see a marked shift from the Brad Pitts and Tom Cruises of old to the Jason Segals and Michael Ceras of right-this-minute.
And I am so down with that.
Funny is sexy. You can’t tell me that Russell Brand would’ve snagged all those Shagger of the Year awards if he couldn’t inspire giggles in legions of women. I find the guy as charming as the next broad, but if you walked past him sitting on a park bench and didn’t know who he was… well, you’d probably throw him your spare change. In fact, I say to Katy Perry what I once said to my mother: “It’s obvious you didn’t marry him for his looks!” Although, in my dad’s defence, I was only eight years old at the time. But the sentiment stands.
So should you be crossing “chiselled cheekbones” off your wish list and replacing it with “ability to make a little bit of pee come out when he tells jokes at the pub”? The short answer is: yes. Never, ever underestimate a man who gives good banter. It’s the number-one must-have atop most singles’ online dating profiles: has GSOH, seeks same! For the most part, we ladies are seduced by the power of comedy. I know I like me a bit of tomfoolery (indeed, I have suspicions I’ll one day meet and marry him and become Mrs Foolery). And I see gals everywhere falling for the funny, too. Many of the male comedians I know have the ability to win women over in mere seconds – an amusing anecdote here, a well-timed quip there. We’re like putty in their awkward, fumbly hands.
But what I’m really interested in is: does it work the other way around? Can you actually win him over with your ability to quote scenes from Anchorman: The Legend of Ron Burgundy, or is he really only interested in your cup size and your proclivity for cooking roast meats? Last Friday’s unofficial pub survey says (drum roll, please)… it’s a three-way tie. Which isn’t hugely encouraging, but isn’t an altogether bleak prospect, either. It means today’s male is putting more stock in your smarts than those that came before him, which is promising for our species as a whole. Actually, when you think about it, evolution is rather like a Woody Allen movie: confusingly slow but usually gets there in the end.
I say, don’t ever be afraid to let your fun flag fly. Adding a little humour to your repertoire makes you seem approachable, lively, charming – more like the girl next door that every man not-so-secretly wants. So I say, “Thank you, funny women of the world. Thank you for your intellect and your quick wit! Thank you for your silly impressions and your dick jokes! You’re hilarious and you make me want to be friends with you and possibly steal your bits! And it makes men want to get up in your bits, too. So tickle his funny bone before you tickle his other bone. Because if trendsetters such as Tina Fey and Kristen Wiig are anything to go by, it’s one small jest for women, one hilarious leap for womankind.
Word of the month:
Gnawing glory (noun): When he tries, but fails, to get you in the mood to take on his morning wood. As in, “He was trying so hard down there, but it was more like gnawing glory than morning glory…”
Want more of Emma’s dating truisms? Check out her column, Keep Calm and Carry One, in Cosmopolitan.
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