Ten simple things men want
While it's tempting to think that men only want two things - steak and sex - they actually have a secret wish list of emotional needs that you may or may not be meeting. Here are the top ten simple things that your man wants from your relationship.
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An independent woman. Men find independent women sexy, bottom line. It doesn't mean you have to make a song and a dance when he offers to pay for coffee, but it's attractive to have your own interests and do things on your own every now and again. Plus, when you're feeling not so independent and want some TLC from your man, he'll be more than willing to oblige.
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Silence. The old adage of silence is golden is certainly true when it comes to the male species. If he's a little quiet, don't pressure him. Unlike women, if a man is quiet it doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong - it just means he has nothing to say!
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No game-playing. The original game-playing of acting disinterested and waiting a certain amount of hours before texting back has gone out the window. In the end, this will only have two possible outcomes. He'll be put off by your lack of interest and go with a stronger choice or he'll pursue you for so long that he'll probably end up resenting you. You don't need to act overly eager, but if you like him - let him know.
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Listen to him. Whether he's had a tough day at work or has found out his favourite footy player is switching teams, sometimes a beer with the boys just doesn't cut it and he needs someone else to listen to him. Listen to him, but then drop it immediately. When he's ready to bring it up again, he will.
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Sense of humour. Ask every guy what he looks for in a girl and this will always pop up. A sense of humour in a relationship translates in to being relaxed, in the moment, and having lots of laughs. If this isn't happening in your relationship, your man is going to think you're distracted or uptight.
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Tickle his taste buds. You don't need to pop on an apron and whip up a baked dinner every night, but men love food and love it even more when it's homemade. Surprise him by making his favourite meal after he's had an incredibly tiring day at work - it's like the reverse of him taking you shoe shopping.
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Be truthful. If your guy has control-freak issues, he either has a sixth sense that he's being lied to, or alternatively he is simply a control-freak. Either way, always be up front and honest with your man. A little bit of honesty goes a long way, and he'll feel completely assured knowing that you're being honest about things.
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Romance. What guy would actually scoff at you for bringing him a present? Everyone loves being spoilt once in a while. Upload some new songs on his iPod, cook him a steak, or even send him a dirty message telling him what you're going to do to him later. Yep, that falls under the category of romance for guys.
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Sex. While men love a consistent sex life (who doesn't?) they love it even more when it's consistently sexy sex. This means it's obvious that you're really getting in to it - and really enjoying it. Guys can pretend not to notice for a few times if you're not that keen, but if it continues to happen it'll begin to eat away at him and make him worry. You don't need to be a porn star, but let him know how much you want him.
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Tone down the drama. Ever burst in to tears because your jeans suddenly no longer fit? Or hyperventilated because your fave celeb didn't win Dancing with the Stars? Men generally put up with our occasional trivial freak-outs, but make sure you keep it in check. What happens in your own home is private, but do not cause a scene in front of his friends or family - ever.
An independent woman. Men find independent women sexy, bottom line. It doesn't mean you have to make a song and a dance when he offers to pay for coffee, but it's attractive to have your own interests and do things on your own every now and again. Plus, when you're feeling not so independent and want some TLC from your man, he'll be more than willing to oblige.
