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10 most common sexual fantasies revealed

They’re probably not what you’d think.

10 most common sexual fantasies revealed

While the 50 Shades phenomenon does seem to have made kinky sexual fantasies about domination the norm, it turns out that’s generally as dirty as our minds get.

New research out of the University of Montreal asked men and women about their sexual fantasies, and the top ten answers might surprise you. Mainly because they’re so vanilla.

While being dominated was up there in the ‘common’ answers, it came in at the lower end of the list behind much tamer desires, like feeling romantic and doing it on a beach.

Participants were asked to rate 55 different sexual fantasies and the results were sorted into four categories: “statistically rare" (found in 2.3 per cent or fewer of participants), "statistically unusual" (found in 15.9 per cent or less of participants), "Statistically common" (found in more than 50 per cent of the participants) and "statistically typical" (found in more than 84.1 per cent of the participants).

For women, the top ten were:

  1. "I like to feel romantic emotions during a sexual relationship." (typical, 92.2%)

  1. "Atmosphere and location are important in my sexual fantasies." (typical, 86.4%)

  1. "I have fantasized about having sexual [sic] in a romantic location (eg on a deserted beach)." (typical, 84.9%)

  1. "I have fantasized about having sex in an unusual place (eg in the office; public toilet)." (common, 81.7%)

  1. "I have fantasized about taking part in oral sex." (common, 78.5%)

  1. "I have fantasized about giving fellatio." (common, 72.1%)

  1. "I have fantasized about being masturbated by my partner." (common, 71.4%)

  1. "I have fantasized about masturbating my partner." (common, 68.1%)

  1. "I have fantasized about having sex with someone that I know who is not my spouse." (common, 66.3%)

  1. "I have fantasized about being dominated sexually." (common, 64.6%)

And for dudes:

  1. "I like to feel romantic emotions during a sexual relationship." (common, 88.3%)

  1. "I have fantasized about taking part in oral sex." (common, 87.6%)

  1. "I have fantasized about having sex with two women." (common, 84.5%)

  1. "I have fantasized about having sex with someone that I know who is not my spouse." (common, 83.4 %)

  1. "I have fantasized about having sex in an unusual place (eg in the office; public toilet)." (common, 82.3%)

  1. "I have fantasized about watching two women make love." (common, 82.1%)

  1. "Atmosphere and location are important in my sexual fantasies." (common, 81.2%)

  1. "I have fantasized about ejaculating on my sexual partner (For men only)."(common, 80.4 %)

  1. "I have fantasized about having sexual [sic] in a romantic location (eg on a deserted beach)." (common, 78.4%)

  1. "I have fantasized about giving cunnilingus." (common, 78.1%)

So not only are we more boring than we thought, we’re also pretty similar.

While there were also much kinkier answers given (like unique male fantasies regarding she-males, anal sex among heterosexuals, and the idea of watching their partner have sex with another man) these ranked further down the lists.