Sex

20 sexy moves

Sometimes we are just not up for full on sex, right? But there’s still heaps of kinky and cuddly fun stuff to try…

Cuddly

When you just want to snuggle up, lie with your head on his chest, and trace cute little messages across his torso (“I’m so happy”/ “You’re so hot”). Then let him reciprocate by writing his own love note across your back.

Sexy

For the days when you areon, straddle him while he’s lying on his back in bed and lean back so your elbows rest behind you. Your body should form a semi-bridge. From here, let him do the work. Have him thrust up while getting an eyeful of your rocking bod. It’s a total rush to know he’s basically worshipping you.

Shy

There are days when you’re not feeling sotake-me-now ready – days you consider life as a never-nude. This is the perfect time to employ half-dressed sex. Keep your sweater dress on, push your undies aside, and don’t let him get totally naked either – it’ll feel all urgent and charged, without putting you on full display.

Naughty

Go commando on a date. While you’re sitting in the cinema, slip his hand underneath your skirt and give him a saucy grin. He’ll know that once you get home, it’s on like Donkey Kong.

Voyeuristic

Ask him to touch himself while you watch. It’s hot to see your guy completely lose control while you maintain yours. Also: learning opportunity!

Crazy

Doggie-style sex in front of a window will tap into your exhibitionist side. You’ll literally steam things up. If you have nosy neighbours, do it at night, with the lights down.

Lazy

Have a pizza picnic party in bed – no TV allowed. Put on a sexy playlist and sit across from each other, just like you would eating at a restaurant. Serve the pizza on plates, pour some wine, and don’t be afraid to get messy with that margherita.

Experimental

Hot/cold play isn’t the name of Chris Martin’s side band. It’s when you alternate the sensations to build tension and leave him guessing which he’s going to experience next. Take turns blindfolding each other and teasing sensitive spots like the inner thighs with ice cubes and your warm breath.

Romantic

Dim lighting plus a back rub is très romantic, and a massage candle kills two lovebirds (we’ll be here all week) with one stone. Try Lelo Flickering Massage Candle – it melts into a shea butter and apricot kernel massage oil (maxxxblack.com.au, $45). Massage also releases the bonding hormone oxytocin, so you’ll feel even more connected post-rub.

In charge

Climb on top and pin his wrists against the bed. Holding his arms gives leverage so you can go for it – and adds to the you-in-control vibe. The diagonal angle provides contact between his pelvic bone and your clitoris, upping the orgasmic potential.

Submissive

Tell your man to bind your wrists to the headboard with one of his silk ties before he goes down on you. It’s much more comfortable than a pair of handcuffs (really).

Playful

We know it sounds weird, but hear us out: play-wrestling with your man can be super-sexy and fun. All that pushing and rubbing up against each other = grrr. Just be sure to hold your smackdown on a soft surface, like your mattress or a fuzzy rug (imagine that convo with an ER doc). There are no losers in this round, and it may just put you in the mood for number 11…

Stressed

Orgasms relieve tension, so after a hard day’s work, whisper to him, “All I want is for you to make me come.” When there’s a problem, men like to fix it, so you’re making him feel like a stud, too.

Ambitious

Simultaneous orgasms are not impossible. Next time you’re feeling focused, try side-by-side 69. Turn on to your sides, facing each other. Since you never have to raise your heads off the pillows, you’ll be comfy as you get each other there.

Groggy

There’s just something about slow, languid sex the morning after a late night. Spooning is perfect because (1) it allows you to remain lazily in the bed, and (2) his hands will be free to roam your body – meaning less work for you to do in your sleepy state. Roll on your side and guide him inside you.

Relaxed

Take a hot bubble bath together and work up a lather. Sit down between his legs, with your back against his chest. He can reach around and give you some manual loving while you grind up against him (gently). Water will definitely slosh on your floor, but you’re zen, baby, so c’est la vie.

Nostalgic

Remember how exciting making out was when you were just starting high school? Tap into that. Go for 10 solid minutes of kissing, groping and dry-humping (grossest sex term ever, we know – but all the friction it creates is very girl-orgasm-friendly).

Generous

It’s better to give than to receive, right? When the giving mood strikes you, tell him to lie back and relax, then roll a condom on and start going down on him. After a few minutes, take it off and continue. Going from sheathed to bare-skinned will make it more intense than usual.

Patient

When you want to draw out the experience (or if you’ve just got a masochistic streak in you), try stop-and-go sex. Bring yourselves to the brink, then stop. Don’t move, don’t grind, don’t do anything, for at least 30 seconds. Repeat. Delaying orgasm makes the release super-powerful.

Kinky

On the nights when you want to let your freak flag fly, assume an alter ego. (Beyoncé does it! Sasha Fierce, anyone?) It’s easier to get into character when you don’t look like you, so meet him at the door in a wig. Your night will be very interesting.