Sex

Break out of your orgasm rutt

Can’t get no satisfaction? Try these tips that will bring on toe-curling pleasure in no time…

Orgasm rutt

Is your sex life a little on the beige side at the moment? Don't stress; you're not the only one who struggles to reach the Big O every time (only 30 percent of women can orgasm from sex). Follow our guide to breaking out of your sex slump.

If girl-on-top does it for you this will too

Missionary using the CAT (coital alignment technique).

Why it works: Girl-on-top gets you going because your clitoris gets lots of stimulation. The CAT delivers similar benefits. Get into the missionary position, then get your guy to position himself so his pelvis is in line with yours. He should then use a figure-of-eight motion to massage your clitoris with his pelvic bone.

If oral does it for you this will too

A little extra lube.

Why it works: What your body is responding to during oral is all the lubrication from your guy’s mouth combined with pressure from his tongue. A lot of couples under-use lube or think that it’s only for when a woman feels dry – which is so not the case! Ask your man to touch your clitoris during sex with a lubed-up digit.

If a vibrator does it for you this will too

You time. A lot of it.

Why it works: Vibrators are great fun but they can potentially desensitise you to any other kind of touch as they’re more powerful than any human (that isn’t a myth, unfortunately). Want to wean yourself off of one? Over the next three months, take half an hour a few times each week to touch yourself in various ways until you’ve found your new go-to.

“What finally did it for me”

Here six women who once identified as “orgasmically challenged” share with us the move that got their toes to curl. Steal it, learn it, use it.

“The first time I ever experienced one was by accident when I was making out with a guy in the backseat of his car. I started dry humping him and things got intense. About a minute later, boom – my first orgasm happened. I figured out I need to stimulate my clitoris outside my pants – the texture of the material helps.” Aly, 19

“I struggled to have an orgasm in previous relationships. When I started dating my now-husband, we had phone sex (we were long-distance at the time), and hearing how turned on he was turned me on so much that I began to have orgasms from touching myself. Knowing your own body (and making sure you’re turned on mentally) helps so much.” Pamela, 24

“What finally did it for me was having really slow, deep sex where the guy hits my G-spot. Slow and steady wins my race!” Sara, 23

“The two positions that always get me off are girl-on-top and one where my guy kneels in front of me while I’m on my back with my legs open. He goes inside me while I’ll touch my clitoris. Works every time.” Suzanna, 20

“I dated a guy who could not get the angle right. After a few hook-ups, I put some pillows under my butt, which elevated my hips… and it worked!” Lauren, 23

“It’s all about being on my stomach on top, not vertically but horizontally. Then I just kind of squiggle around with my stomach in a circle – I guess you’d call that grinding, but I hate that word!” Anne, 27