Sex

Have yourself a very sexy Christmas…

Give him the gift of mind-blowing sex this holiday season. Here’s how…

Holiday sex

Wow, it’s been a huge year. No doubt there’s loads going on in your life, career and friendship circles right now. But in such a busy time, it’s important not to leave sex off your “to do” list. In fact, this time of year, when holidays are on the horizon, is the perfect time to ramp your love life up a notch. And we can’t think of a better present we’d rather give (or receive!) this Christmas than awesome sex. Agreed?

Share a sex toy

One sure-fire way to get both of your excitement levels soaring is to share a sex toy. “Sex toys make great presents but avoid any products that claims to make him ‘bigger’ or ‘harder’ if he’s even remotely sensitive about the size of his penis (actually, maybe even if he’s not!),” explains the DailyMail’s sex expert Tracey Cox. And while vibrators might be awesome for you, it’s better to choose something that has benefits for both of you. “Allowing him to be involved in giving you pleasure will ensure his ego stays intact,” explains sex and relationship expert Dr Nikki Goldstein. “Choose something like a ‘wevibe’, a product you insert into a woman that stimulates the clitoris and G-spot but still allows the man to penetrate you.”

Give him a treasure chest

Remember how when you were 13, you’d create a memories box for your BF with all the trinkets, love letters and mementos of your relationship? Well think of this as a more X-rated version. Fill a box with all sorts of kinky things – from lube and massage oil, to sex toys and handcuffs. “Creating a gift like this is a symbol that you’re serious about wanting to spark up your relationship,” explains Dr Nikki. “Plus, it takes the guesswork out of keeping thing exciting – all you have to do is dip into your chest and you’ll have instant inspiration.”

Give him a sensual massage

It might seem like a small gesture compared to a 50 Shades of Grey-type sex session, but it will definitely do the trick. Lather massage lotion between your palms and give him a massage to remember. If it turns into something more? It’s a win-win. “Often we underestimate the power of the little things in sparking up our love life and affection for one another. Taking turns to give each other a massage will do wonders because you’re both getting something out of it,” explains Dr Nikki.

12 months of (WOW) sex

If you and your partner have a great sex life, but only really have one or two moves in your sexual repertoire, creating a sexy calendar for him is sure to turn the volume up on your sex life. “Buy a large pinboard, some blank coloured cards and drawing pins. Now make a list of your ‘sex favourites’: My favourite place to have sex. Time of the day to have sex. Favourite kissing technique. Where I like being kissed most. Things I’d like to try but haven’t. Secret parts of my body I most like being kissed/licked/touched,” explains Tracey.

Map out one new sex task (it can be anything from having sex in a new place, or trying a new position) for every month of the coming year. “By listing everything you like sexually and describing these 12 things as a present, it’s not only a nice way to say ‘I’m going to make the effort’, it’ll give you a reminder of how to spice up your sex life when things get busy throughout the year,” says Dr Nikki.

Use your brain (and tact!)

So now that you’re all excited to create your sexy Christmas gifts – we’ve got a word of warning for you. Use your common sense. “You can really turn someone off with a sex toy (just imagine how you’d feel if you always use small delicate sex toys and your boyfriend chose to gift you a ginormous dildo?!). So keep your boyfriend’s boundaries in mind and only buy something he would actually like – obviously penis enlargers or anything that enhances him are doing to deflate his ego,” recommends Dr Nikki.

Ladies, go forth and have yourself a very sexy Christmas!