Sex

Is kinky sex good for you?

50 Shades of Grey haters, listen up: BDSM may actually boost your wellbeing…

If Ana getting spanked by Christian in 50 Shades of Grey was anything to go by, we’d assume that kinky sex could seriously screw with you. C’mon, how zen could one really feel after being tied to a bed and whipped?

But research is suggesting that engaging in consensual BDSM sex could have serious benefits.

A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that those who get kinky in the budoir may be psychologically better off than the general public.

Yep, they reported having higher levels of wellbeing and felt more secure in their relationships. reaches for whip

Apparently those into BDSM "either did not differ from the general population and if they differed, they always differed in the more favourable direction," study researcher and psychologist Andreas Wismeijer, who conducted the research while at Tilburg University, revealed.

And in more strange but apparently true findings, getting kinky in the bedroom could, er, put you into a meditative state.

James Ambler, a graduate student in psychology at Northern Illinois University, conducted a study into why people engage in BDSM, because obviously it hurts. A lot.

People in the BDSM community called “switches”, or peeps who like giving and receiving pain, were recruited for the study. They were made to complete a cognitive test after their sexy times - because surely a brain test is what everyone wants to do after sex, right?

Interestingly, they found that people who were receiving the pain during sex showed short-term reductions in the area of the brain responsible for working memory and executive control. In other words, BDSM sex may cause an altered state of consciousness. Weird, right?

If you’re keen to get a little kinky in the bedroom, it’s important to lay down some ground rules first.

“If you're just starting out with BDSM, it’s a good idea to talk to your partner about your boundaries and expectations before you get into the bedroom. Don't feel you have to try something just because your partner wants to,” explains sex and relationship expert, Isiah McKimmie.

“Always have a safe word (even if you don't think you'll need it) and stay alert to when your partner might not be enjoying things.”

And no, getting kinky in the bedroom doesn’t have to involve pain.

“Start with blindfolding each other, using feathers or gentle spanking,” advises Isiah.