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Less sex, more sexual partners

Say what?! New research shows our sex lives have taken an interesting turn…

Less sex, more sexual partners

Everywhere we look, there’s sex winking right back at us. It’s on TV shows like Girls and it’s in Kanye’s (hilariously corny) video clip for ‘Bound 2’. So, with so much sexy time going on around us, surely we’re having more bedroom action than ever, right?

Wrong. Oh so wrong. New research conducted for the UK’s National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles has found that, get this, we’re racking up more sexual partners than ever but we’re having less sex.

The research found that women now have an average of 7.7 sexual partners in their lifetime compared with just 3.7 recorded in1991. And men now have an average of 11.7 partners whereas it was 8.6 in 1991.

While the study may have been conducted on Brits, sex and relationship expert Dr Nikki Goldstein says the findings could certainly be similar here in Australia. “We’re living in an era now where women have got more rights and more rights means we’re more sexually empowered than ever.”

You’d think that women more than doubling their number of sexy times partners would guarantee they’re spending more time between the sheets, right? But the findings revealed that the average number of times 16- to 44-year-old women have sex every month went from six to just under five. And the same went for guys.

So what’s the explanation for us having more sexual partners yet less sex? (It just doesn’t seem fair!) According to Dr Nikki, our modern lifestyle is to blame: “We’ve got such busy lifestyles these days. We’re tired and stressed about work, uiniversity and school and we’re less likely to want to have sex. Also, women who are in relationships and are living with their partners are less likely to want to go home and have sex every night due to the stresses in their lives."

Plus, women are feeling more empowered to have casual sex, which means we don’t always have regular sex sessions with just one guy locked in.

“A lot of women are coming out of relationships and are having sex with casual partners, so we’re having sex frequently,” explains Nikki.

While us ladies might be having sex with more partners than ever, a study by the University of Texas and University of California-Los Angeles has found that, thanks to evolution, women are programmed to feel regret after a casual encounter. The main regret we have? Having sex with an unattractive guy – yep, fair call.

But while women feel more remorseful about sex, the same study found guys are totally the opposite. Their top three sex regrets are being too shy, not trying to sleep with more chicks when they’re single and not sleeping with enough women when they’re young. We’re so not surprised!