If your boyfriend finishes sexy time before you even get close to O Town, don’t worry. Apparently he’s not the only one.
A new sex book claims that a HUGE 45 per cent of guys climax before they even hit two minute mark. #WTF
“There have been studies in which couples consented to be scientifically observed having sex, and one of the observers timed each session with a stopwatch to make a fairly accurate assessment about the length of the coupling,” explains Dr Harry Fisch in The New Naked: The Ultimate Sex Education for Grown-Ups, about some pretty awkward sounding research.
“Not surprisingly, there is an extremely large variation in the time it takes a couple to have sex, ranging from the excessively short (about two minutes or less, which famed sex researcher Alfred Kinsey dryly noted was a 'frequent source of marital conflict') to the 'Are you done yet?' (over forty minutes).
“An astonishing 45 per cent of men finish the sex act too quickly, which is to say, within Kinsey's conflicted two minutes.”
Seeing as the average woman needs at least five to seven minutes to orgasm through vaginal penetration alone – that’s pretty disappointing stuff.
But if your man is in the 45 percentile, fear not! Sexpert Nikki Goldstein has some top tips to keep him from shooting his load too early…
Taking little time-outs during sex will calm him down and keep from peaking too early. Tell him to pull out and try just kissing for a minute, like the big tease that you are.
“If it is just a case of sensitivity and over excitement then it's time to slow things down and open the lines of communication,” Nikki says.
“Make sure he feels comfortable telling you when to pull back and when to keep going. The aim is to get close to that point of no return and then slow things down.”
Turns out condoms have brains… who knew? Special desensitizing condoms contain benzocaine or lidocaine, which slightly decrease sensation. Meaning longer in the sack.
Practise makes perfect
“It's good for guys to practice on themselves with masturbating,” Nikki advises.
“Working out what triggers someone and what feels good and too good is often something useful for the individual to do first so they are able to communicate this with their partner.”
Give it a squeeze
Squeezing the head of the penis helps decrease arousal. FACT. So GENTLY give it a go in between changing positions, or if he feels he’s about to blow.
While foreplay might seem like a no-no if you’re aiming for longevity, using oral or your hands to bring him to a pre-sex climax will mean he’ll last much longer in the main show.
If all else fails…
“Most importantly, it's important not to see early ejaculation as a barrier to pleasure,” Nikki says.
“With as many as 80 per cent of women achieving orgasm through clitoral stimulation, should penetration be as important as we make it out to be?
“If he ejaculates early, make sure he delivers you an orgasm before the show is over using other techniques. Ejaculation is not game over.”