Sex

Porn sex vs real sex

From penis size to the type of vajayjays you see in porn, we debunk what’s real and what’s SO not…

Porn sex versus real sex

It seems commonsense that pornography doesn’t mirror reality, but it can actually affect what we want in bed, expect from our partners, and demand of ourselves when it comes to getting down and dirty. As adult film actress Nina Hartley puts it, “Pornography is a paid, professional performance by actors. It’s a fantasy – it isn’t meant to be a rule book and guide book or a how-to as a general rule.” Porn can be great for spicing up sex, but it can also make us think we’re doing it all wrong. So, here’s a naughty reality check…

Penis size

Penises can be large or small (and this depends on whether they’re erect or flaccid – some grow more than others with an erection), thick or thin, straight or curved, circumcised or not. These variations are all normal and perfectly functional.

Porn stars average when erect: 20 cm

Everyday guys average when erect: 15 cm

Furry friends

Most porn stars don’t look like “everyday” women, and that’s no surprise: they’re not only chosen for their tiny bodies and massive, er, assets, but they also have a number of unrealistic physical attributes in the nether regions. Pube-fros from the ’70s and ’80s have given way to the pube-nos of today. There’s a massive lack of bush in current porn, so more and more women are getting their lady-forest waxed, shaved, plucked and lasered.

There’s a big difference in the standardised porn vagina versus the natural diversity in the length and shape of most everyday lady bits. Porn magazines have actually been called out for Photoshopping out “unsightly” inner labia on their models! But it really doesn’t matter if you’re tucked up or hanging low: as long as you can accept your vajizzle, you can have a roaring sex life.

The cut

Almost all porn stars have been circumcised – but, in reality, only about a third of men are. Regardless of whether he’s cut or uncut, it’s quality over quantity – get creative with positions, toys and techniques and you really can make the most of whatever he’s working with!

Percentage of everyday guys who are not circumsized: 70

The Big O

On to the grand finale of porn: The orgasm. Usually there's a focus on male orgasm as the goal, with the woman’s pleasure being a side effect of his amazing skillz.

Everyday people: Most Australians report sex lasting just 15 to 30 minutes, including foreplay.

Porn stars: Goes for hours; everyone comes multiple times.

Everyday women: About one third of women have difficulty reaching orgasm during sex, and half of all women sometimes fake it. If you’re not “bubbling over,” communicate with your partner about what feels good, slow it down, relax, and take matters into your own hands!

Long lasting lovin’

Porn sex: Porn stars have a Viagra-like endurance.

Everyday sex: About a quarter of men report “coming to orgasm too quickly,” and 16 to 17 percent of both sexes said they felt anxious about their ability to perform”.

STI safety

Porn sex: There are very strict rules about STI testing in the adult industry, meaning that most porn stars are deemed safe to have unprotected sex.

Everyday sex: Unfortunately we don’t have this luxury in the real world, so always use condoms and get tested – it’s the best way to ensure you have a safe, worry-free sex life.