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11 brilliant sex tips from yoga instructors

Go with the ~~flow~~ to have more fun in bed.

By: Perri O. Blumberg

Like cheerleaders and gymnasts, yoga instructors often have to field the innuendo-laced question, "How flexible are you?" Yes, they're usually pretty flexible. But — because you know this is what the asker was implying — that's not the only reason they're good in bed. They also embrace that whole being-present-in-the-moment thing, which is a huge boon for one's sex life.

In Sanskrit, "yoga" actually means "union" or "connection" — and that can be with yourself or with another person. "By bringing the foundations of yoga into the bedroom, you can have a more passionate and meaningful sex life," says Rachael A. Babington, founder of Brides Love Yoga.

Even better: Yoga also strengthens your core, enhances flexibility, and helps to open tight shoulders, hips, and more — which all come in handy when you're gearing up to get down. Let these yoga instructors school you in how to get it om.

From: Redbook

1. **TURN YOUR BEDROOM INTO A YOGA STUDIO**

"Don't just turn the lights out and go for it. Take the time to create that yoga studio vibe," suggests Lara Falberg, a yoga instructor at Yoga on High in Columbus, Ohio. That may mean dimming the lights very low, lighting candles or incense, spritzing a few sprays of your favorite perfume, or cueing up some tunes from yoga class ("A lot of yoga music I hear in class can often work on sex playlists," says Falberg.)

2. **BREATHE IN TANDEM**

Many people tend to get a little breathless in the heat of passion, but focusing on breathing together during intercourse can be really sexy. "Listening and matching your partner's breath while being intimate is an incredible way to connect and increase sensation," says Patrick Mason, a yoga instructor at TruFusion in Las Vegas, Nevada.

3. **MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT**

A strong gaze is important in yoga class, and establishing eye contact can enhance the thrill and feelings of closeness during sex. "Having enough light and just enough space between you that you can feel each other's breath and see clearly into each other's eyes is key," says Mason. "Combine that with breathing together, and things will become very exciting."

4. **BE CONFIDENT IN YOUR BODY**

Yoga practitioners often leave the mat feeling great about themselves — a regular practice helps to build a positive-self image and mental outlook. Carry those vibes back to the bedroom: "I often say to students, 'Take what you need and leave anything you don't,'" says Mandy Baughman, a yoga instructor in Charleston, South Carolina. "In bed, ask for what you want and anything that 'isn't serving you,' leave it behind."

5. **TRY A SEATED TWIST**

Supta matsyendrasana may sound intimidating in Sanskrit, but this reclined twist is a simple and powerful way to get in sync with your partner. "Lay on your back, extend your arms outward in a 'T' shape, and let your knees fall to the right as you turn your head and gaze towards the left," explains Babington. "As you exhale, have your partner push your hip away from your shoulders, lengthening and gently stretching the whole right side of your waist." Hold this for a few breaths, switch sides, then give your partner a turn. Twists help soothe nerves and put you in the mood, so this is a great way to warm things up — try using one hand to gently stroke his inner thigh to spark excitement and boost the intimacy of this pose.

6. **MAKE IT A REAL WORKOUT**

"Find positions that challenge both parties' flexibility and strength," suggest Mason. "The possibilities are many, and ripe for some vertical creativity. Use the motto 'If you aren't sweating you're doing it wrong!'"

7. **INSTITUTE "NAKED SUNDAYS"**

Or any damn day. "Plan a day or evening where you do everything in the nude and play with each other's bodies while doing your normal routine ... washing dishes, brushing your teeth, whatever!" suggests Christine Lewis, a Florida-based yoga instructor. It will help you tap into that body confidence yoga helps to build, and "playfully touching and rubbing against each other in nonsexual scenarios helps build more sexual desire."

8. **DO PARTNER BRIDGE POSES**

"Bridge pose alone is great for getting the body ready for sex. It's loosens the hip flexors for more flexibility and tones the pelvic muscles to help escalate orgasms," explains Falberg. "Get in bed or whatever flat surface you like, face your partner, position yourself on your back, and lift into bridge, planted firmly in the ground, chest and head arching back and expanding upward toward the sky." Once you're situated, allow your partner to nudge your knees apart gently before lifting into a bridge pose of his own, facing you. Inch forward toward him using your shoulders. Don't rush — the slowness of this exercise can help enhance intimacy — and move on your exhales. Exhale together through open mouths once you're aligned for at least 10 long breaths — you'll push your flexibility limits and work on your tandem breathing, a one-two punch of sexy yoga benefits.

9. **PRACTICE THE KINKY POSES AT HOME**

"Some poses are great stretches but give all of us the wrong thoughts in class," admits Mason. "Frog (Mandukasana), happy baby (Ananda Balasana), wide-legged forward fold (Prasaritta Padottanasana), and puppy pose (Uttana Shishosana) are all great to loosen up tight parts of the body and give you a fun way to tease your partner." For a sexy twist, "take those poses and insert your partner. You're welcome," says Mason.

10. **LAUGH IT OFF**

You know when someone's body makes a weird noise in yoga class and the ensuing giggles wipe any tension from the room? That works in the bedroom too. Yikes-inducing noises, or awkward tangled tongues and limbs moments are bound to occur; laugh it off, then leave it behind you like a true yogi. "We live in our heads too much of the time. Laughter diffuses tension and keep things playful and fun," says Selena Reynolds, a yoga instructor at Menla Mountain Retreat Center in New York.

11. **DO YOGA TOGETHER!**

They may be biased, but most instructors agree that incorporating a yoga practice into your routine as a couple can be a great way to reconnect and spark some innovative positions in the bedroom. "Doing yoga together helps work on your communication skills as a couple," says Falberg. "If you know enough yoga, get creative and make up a sequence together, or use a resource like YogaGlo where you can follow along. Practicing together in a private space will inevitably get you in the mood." No judgments if you don't actually get that long of a practice in.

Source: Cosmo US

  • Author: Perri O. Blumberg