Sex

Can’t get no satisfaction

Sexual dysfunction ends 1 in 4 couples; many men suffer undiagnosed premature ejaculation.

Premature ejaculation has affected most men at one point in their sexual lives (even if it’s just after a big night). New figures reveal up to 1 in 3 Australian men are affected by the condition, and a whopping 83% are undiagnosed.

The stigma around the condition means most men don’t feel comfortable discussing it with their doctor, or their partner. 40% of men experiencing PE claim it put a strain on their relationship, with 1 in 4 leading to breakup.

The Asia-Pacific Sexual Behaviours and Satisfaction Survey polled over 3,500 men and women between 18 and 45, seeking to understand the condition and its effect on relationships in more detail.

"Lots of men are unaware of the treatment options available for sexual dysfunctions, whether it be counselling or medication, and the research shows that they are too embarrassed to speak with their GPs,” Dr Michael Gillman says of the results.

“This lack of communication leaves many questions unanswered for Aussies. It comes as no surprise to see that 31% of men don’t know what causes PE – it’s commonly perceived to be a psychological issue, rather than the medical condition that it is.”

Beyond speaking to a doctor, the results suggests proper communication between a couple can have a positive effect on the situation. While three quarters of men and women believe mutual sexual satisfaction is important to a healthy relationship, half of men are too embarrassed to talk about PE, and half of women don’t want to hurt their partner’s feelings by bringing it up.

“A sexual dysfunction in a relationship affects both partners,” says Sexologist and Relationship Expert Dr Nikki Goldstein. “Communication with your partner is the first step to take when it comes to improving your sex life.”

“We’re encouraging couples to ask each other “How Was It For You?” to kick start these conversations, so that they’re able to get a better understanding of their partner’s needs and uncover any sexual dysfunctions.”

In light of the survey’s results, ControlPE is hosting a live online clinic from Monday June 30 until Thursday July 3, 8-10pm, enabling men and women to anonymously ask a male GP for advice on sexual dysfunction. Visit www.controlPE.com.au.