Sex geometry
Get past those little body blues and enter explosive
territory…
Men may be able to spot a cold beer or the nearest Sportsgirl exit
at 50 metres, but the wobbly bits you hate? No. However, this
doesn't stop body paranoia ruining sexual pleasure for seven out of
10 Cosmo readers. "It's a growing female problem," says clinical
psychologist Dr Abigael San. "The main reason for the pressure is
the media message that appearance is everything." So why don't men
have this getting-naked phobia? "They don't associate appearance
with self-worth," explains Dr. San. Here, the no-nonsense Cosmo
guide to escaping the "lights-off" mindset for good.
Get sensual
"Focus on where you are to combat negative thoughts," says
Dr San. "Create a relaxed space with a lot of variety for your
senses." There are tricks to boost your confidence: get flawless
skin by using peach light bulbs and (if possible) stand with the
light behind you - it shaves centimetres off your silhouette. Wear
perfume with a spicy, floral scent such as Allure by Chanel
(experts found men who smelt this type of scent thought women were
five kilos lighter than they actually were), and wear lingerie that
not only highlights assets but also has a fabric that arouses your
skin, helping to get you out of your head and into your body.
Engage your sexy brain
Dr San says it's very important to link any critical
thoughts to positive ones. "So, if you think 'I have a flat chest,'
have a positive truth ready to add: 'But I have fab legs.'" Also,
observe him when he's aroused. "It'll be hard for your brain to
believe you're anything other than irrestible," she says.
What are your tips for looking good in the bedroom?
"Lingerie and a good lipstick - either red or a musky
pink. Perfume is also really important - you always want to be
smelling great!" Monica, 21.
"It's very important to make sure everything went smooth,
and that you're not wearing too much makeup. Boys like
leopard-print and black. Most importantly, be comfortable in our
body." Aleksandra, 23.
"A bit of red nail polish and sexy pyjamas always works
wonders." Johanna, 23.
By Debbie Willimott
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