Sex

Sexy moves he’s not into

Those things you think drive him wild might be doing so for all the wrong reasons…

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Guys are complex creatures. It’s hard to know what’s on their mind, let alone what they find a turn on, right? So to make up for our lack of knowledge on the male species’ wants and desires, we’ve come up with our own artillery of moves we think they find cute/hot/irresistible. But guess what? We may have got it a little wrong. OK, a lot wrong. Here are those “sexy” things he’s actually not that into…

Sure, unleashing your wilder side during sex is a great thing… so long as you’ve actually broached the subject with your guy prior to, er, unleashing on him. “You want him to be saying ‘ooh’ – not ‘ouch’ so make sure he’s comfortable with your moves before you take him to bed,” says Elly Klein, sex and relationship expert.

Faking it

We STRONGLY recommend never faking an orgasm, especially if you feel you deserve to have good sex in future. If you fake it and he cottons on, he’s going to feel totally deflated. “Faking it is essentially a lie – a lie that’s going to affect your sex life and relationship. If you have trouble having reaching orgasm, talk to him about it and work through it together – he’ll appreciate your honestly,” says Elly.

Getting drunk

Getting totally plastered is. Not. Cute. Ever. So if you’re getting wasted and calling him up, don’t’ expect him to be pleased/respect you. “Guys are attracted to class. It’s hard to be classy when you’re stumbling in your stilettos and your hair smells like spew,” says Elly. Amen to that!

Taking over in the bedroom

Guys love it when girls take control in the bedroom, right? Yes, but to an extent. If you’re completely dominating him without giving him a say over what you do, he might find your force a little OTT – the same as you would feel if he did that to you. “Men like to feel like men. If you call all the shots in bed, he’ll feel emasculated and useless,” says Elly. Try to find that fine balance.

Going commando

Britney’s done it. Hell, even Anne Hathaway has done it. So surely if celebs go sans undies in public, guys would find that hot? Um, in a word: no. Wearing no undies around your guy is hot, wearing no undies around the entire universe – he probably isn’t going to find that so enticing. Not sure where to draw the line? “Occasionally is sexy. Constantly is unhygienic,” says Elly. Got it.

Wearing loads of makeup

Sure, we all like to feel pretty when we’re with a guy but caking on the makeup big time could all be in vain. “Guys want to look at your pretty face – not a mask,” says Elly. Don’t stress, you don’t need to go completely barefaced if you don’t want to, just put on an amount that makes you feel comfortable. “Use your makeup to look like a ‘natural beauty’ and you’ll be on the right track,” says Elly. Trust us, it’s not your makeup skills he’s into.

Have any of your “sexy” moves failed you?