Selfish. Sleazy. Sheepish. Yep, players have a pretty bad rep – and rightly so! But a player who’s changed? That deserves a bit of recognition, don’t you think, ladies? Especially when that player has changed his ways for the greater good.
Meet 33-year-old Pete Lynagh. On New Year’s Day in 2013 he was dared to give up sex for a whole year. That’s 365 days of celibacy, people! The best bit? He decided to do it to raise awareness for Free To Shine, an Australian not-for-profit organisation that rescues girls in Cambodia before they become sex slaves, and provides them with education scholarships. (Everybody on three: nawwww).
Now, as you can imagine, this wasn’t easy for a guy who labelled himself a commitment phobe. But he actually did it, and he managed to raise over $50,000 for the charity while he was at it (you can check out the deets on his Facebook page). We’re giving him major props.
So now that his year without sex is up, is Pete back to his player ways? Uh, no. Hell no.
''My attitude now with relationships is about sharing a life, whereas before it was sharing a bed. I could definitely say I was addicted to that need for validation from getting lots of sex,” Pete admitted.
“[Before] I felt empty inside. I didn't like myself. I felt good whenever I was feeling wanted from multiple girls. It's not a good place. It's a pathetic, sad place really, looking back. It was all ego-driven. How many players out there are doing the same thing because they feel empty?''
We don’t know about you, but this is the biggest insight into a former player’s mind we’ve ever had. And we reckon other wannabe-players need to take a leaf from Pete’s (reformed) book..
''I'm craving companionship and intimacy but I'm actually looking for a connection with a partner and then the sex will be a bonus. Going out and having meaningless sex just doesn't even appeal to me anymore,'' he says.
Ladies, consider this player converted.
Photography credit: Pat Scala.