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Trialling Menhattan

Is New York City really the place to be when you’re a single twenty-something?

Is New York City really the place to be when you're a single twenty-something? As I planned my big move from Australia to NYC, everyone was trying to convince me this was the case, and, thanks to Sex and the City, I was determined to be the next Carrie Bradshaw. However, I'm sorry to say that I can't give you an answer from personal experience just yet as I'm only one week in (and I don't work that fast), but from what I hear, there are actually two very opposing views on this; On one hand, there are so many places to meet people, everyone seems open to mingling with new arrivals, guys are confident and are not shy to ask you out in the middle of the street (now this I have experienced) and there is so much to do here that you don't have time to think about being single - you would be wasting precious time and probably missing out on some new bar opening in Soho. On the other hand, if you're thinking of settling down, you are looking at a 6 month investment - at least! - of wondering, stalling, games, and interviews, (uh I mean, dates) before you know where you stand. To me, this sounds perfect because it's like a free trial period before buying, but you need to be aware that you're not the only one who's trialling. During the dating phase in New York, it is more common than not that the other is dating at least three to five people at the same time - often in the same week - and, from what I hear, most are getting 'the milk for free' from all. This is done very openly; neither tries to hide it, which I guess is honest, but I'm still undecided on whether this is better than how we sneakily do it back home. My sources tell me that typically it's not until the six-month mark that you have the 'are we exclusive' conversation and only then (if they agree) can you safely assume the others are out of the picture. This dating strategy has both its perks and downfalls. If you're dating three to five hot, sweet, decent guys then you're having the time of your life. But if you're having no luck, you could be rejected up to five times in one week. No wonder New Yorkers are tough! So, for single boys wanting to join the NYC dating circuit, you better save your pennies. Five dates per week could get expensive and, for you single girls, so far I'm under the impression that you come to the city that never sleeps for the dating experience and fun but not to find the big 'L'. Lucky for me, I am looking for the former for now, but I'll keep investigating (er, just for you, of course). I have had my NYC BMFs serving as safeguards (and even bodyguards) for my first week of bar-hopping, but this weekend I am letting loose with the ladies, so let's see how many dates I can lock in. I guess it's time to trial!