Tech sex - hot or not?

By Carolin Dahlman

It seems like tech sex is the new thing, with heaps of people hooking up behind computers instead of in bed. What happened with the body? Is that out of fashion?

When I lived in Sweden I was on an online dating site where I got a lot of messages from men who wanted to make love with me in different (often rather kinky) ways. They even sent me pictures of their lower regions. Hmm. When are men going to learn that their little friend is not very aesthetically pleasing?

Anyway, it has always amused and confused me how men can be so full on about sex so fast. You meet someone out at a pub one night, talk about neutral issues like politics or music, and you give him your number. But then comes a text message at 2am. "Are you up?"

Damn, damn, damn. Another booty caller. Where are all the good boys? I used to wonder why men kept on using this strategy. Was it really working for them?

I don't know, but there sure is a lot of sex going on out there in cyberspace! One in five Aussie women has had "sex" in a chat room. Every second Australian woman has sent or received sexual texts and one in five has been an amateur porn star!

Obviously, "tech sex" is considered liberating, exciting, guilt-free, empowering and safe.

I must admit, I did try the chat sex stuff once but it left me feeling empty. I prefer real-life sex. Don't you? What is so scary about that? Why can't real-life sex be liberating and guilt-free too? And why don't we force the blokes to be better in bed, so real-body sex gets exciting and empowering? Come on, let's do it.

Carolin Dahlman is a qualified love coach, guiding people to find love and build happy relationships. She is the author of Find love, a self coaching book that helps singles ask the right questions to love themselves first and get the right attitude to have a healthy love life. Read more about Carolin or book one on one sessions on www.coaching2love.com or www.youtube.com/carolinlovecoach.