The Blended Orgasm

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Here's a more intense climax to add to your repertoire. Your new slogan may become "I'll take mine blended".

Okay, you've heard of a clitoral orgasm and you've heard of the G-spot kind, which are both damn good in their own right. Now imagine if you blended the two types for one phenomenal fireworks finale. Yep, you can actually do that. It does take some specific techniques, which we teach below, and a bit of practise, but the experienced say it's a skill you can master.

The basics
As we said, a blended O is the combo of the two different ways women can climax. Clitoral orgasms usually come on faster because that area is so accessible. G-spot orgasms, named for the small pleasure zone behind your inner vaginal wall, are considered much more intense because they reverberate from inside your body. "By simultaneously having your clitoris and G-spot stroked, you mix the unique sensations of each peak into one, resulting in a longer, deeper experience," explains Aver Cadell, a Los Angeles-based sex therapist.
 
This kind of big bang won't just leave you feeling ah-mazing; your guy will reap its benefits too. "A blended orgasm requires different touches on two distinct body areas and this extra effort naturally slows him down and helps him last longer," says Cadell. Plus, men love it when a woman really loses herself in lust. Watching you experience twice the power of a regular O will drive him over the edge as well.

How to achieve one on your very own
"Before you pursue a blended O with your guy, it's a good idea to learn the ropes on your own so you're then able to better direct him," explains Lori Buckley, a Californian sex therapist.

The best way to start is by lying on your back and letting your body de-stress. When you feel relaxed, begin stroking your clitoris lightly. As you become more aroused, increase your pressure and speed until you're close to reaching your peak.

Once you're near the brink, take your hand off your clitoris and move it to your G-spot. If you're not sure where yours is, locate it this way: insert a finger palm-up two to four centimetres into your vagina, feeling for a spongy area along the front wall. You'll know you've found it when a warm, sexy sensation washes over you, one that may even make you feel like you need to pee (because your G is near your bladder, it can trigger the urge to urinate, but don't worry, this should subside in a few seconds).

As you massage your G and become increasingly excited, resume stimulating your clitoris with your other hand or a vibrator — but don't take your finger off your G-spot.

"While touching both, charge full speed ahead until you reach an explosive pulsing kind of climax," says Buckley. If it doesn't happen the first time, practise, practise, practise.

Getting your guy in on the action
Once you've located your G-spot and know how to bring yourself to a blended orgasm, you're ready to do it with him. This position should make it easier: lie on your back on the bed, your feet dangling over the edge with a few pillows underneath your bottom to raise your pelvis. "It'll be easier for your man's penis to hit your G-spot if your vagina is elevated," says Buckley.

Have your guy stand or kneel (depending on how tall he is and how far off the floor the bed is) as he penetrates you. You two will form an L shape; he shouldn't lean too far over your body because you'll soon need room to reach down and touch your clitoris. Once he's inside you and you feel his penis stroke your G, have him thrust until you feel close to climax, then ask him to stop and remain very still.

Let him watch as you softly tease your clitoris with your fingers. "Switch back and forth between touching your clitoris and stopping and having him thrust until you can't take it anymore and you have to do both moves at the same time. It'll lead to an incredibly explosive finale," says Cadell.

Now that you're a pro
Once you've mastered this missionary move, test-drive a few slightly trickier yet super-pleasurable positions. One option is a blended O doggie-style. "When you're on all fours and he's thrusting from behind, his penis naturally finds your G-spot," says Buckley. Lean your upper body against the bed for support while reaching down and massaging your clitoris as he thrusts.

But doggie-style offers a bigger bonus: you can make him do all the work. His hand is free to rub your clitoris as he thrusts, putting him totally in charge of the two different types of stimulation.

If you crave more control over the G-spot stroking, try woman on top. "Face your guy, lower yourself onto his body and lean forward. You'll feel his penis tickling your G-spot," says Cadell. "Because you're on top, you can thrust fast or slow, up and down or in circles while you or he touches your clitoris."

Or by leaning far enough forward as you thrust, your clitoris will rub against his pelvis, creating completely hands-free stimulation that will culminate in blended-O nirvana.