OK - I know it’s Valentine’s. I know it sucks if you’re single. It sucks to know that you’re a catch and deserve someone as awesome as you are. And sometimes, no matter what fantastic event you plan with your girlfriends, you can’t help but feel lonely and frustrated. Being single is fun – but it can be tough those special days, like Valentine’s or Sunday mornings…
If you were expecting an anti-Valentine’s rant, you won’t get it here. I’m a love coach, and I’m all about finding love. That starts with you! Use this Valentine’s Day to show yourself how much you care – do something special for yourself and enjoy the day. And by making some small adjustments in your life and yourself, love might just come knocking at your door (carrying a huge bunch of flowers) on the February 14, 2010.
Step One
Stop whining that all men are bastards. Men treat women like crap sometimes, but it’s easy fixed by staying away from those particular men (and not trying to change them, understand them or believe them!).
Step Two
Stop waiting for Mr Perfect to ride into your life on noble steed, making you swoon and professing his undying desire to live happily ever after. Take some mature steps into the future by making some changes in your way of being, thinking and doing, and love will come. Think of at least five changes you could take. Build your self esteem? Respect yourself more? Being braver? Choose to date guys who treat you like a princess? Starting with YOU might make the process of finding love take a bit longer, but you will definitely get a much happier relationship out of it.
Step Three
Start enjoying life here and now - every second of it. It is actually a choice you make, to look at a situation or your reflection in the mirror and go “Hey, that’s great” or “Wow, I’m cute”. We can all brighten up whatever parts we like, so put your sunny glasses on and see the good stuff. This will make you brighter and happier this very second. You will sparkle and shine and be the fabulous person that you are.
Step Four
Smile. A lot.
Step Five
Listen carefully – because love could be right around the corner. Take a chance.
Carolin Dahlman is a qualified love coach, guiding people to find love and build happy relationships. She is the author of Find love, a self coaching book that helps singles ask the right questions to love themselves first and get the right attitude to have a healthy love life. Read more about Carolin or book one-on-one sessions on www.coaching2love.com