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I've been with my boyfriend for 15 months. We haven't had sex yet, and I've never had sex before. How do I know when I'm ready and what should I do when I am? from Wendy

Answer:

Wendy, 15 months is a long time and I'm impressed that your boyfriend hasn't put the pressure on you. He's a keeper! Obviously that indicates he really likes you and isn't just using you to get into the sack. The best thing to do is to broach the subject with him. Discuss your trepidations and fears and by getting it out in the open, you'll feel more comfortable and in tune with when it should happen. If you aren't ready, remember there is no rush! Some wait till they're married to do the hanky-panky so it's not abnormal to not rush into things.

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Comments (9)

  • i waited until i was married & it was the best decision i ever made.
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  • you're ready when you feel comfortable enough with your boyfriend for the 'uncomfortable' moments. first time doesn't always go how it does in your mind so you need to be able to have a giggle while trying to figure out what to do, it's all part of the fun and learning.
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  • i always held of losing my V's but when i did, it was the best thing, ive never been so happy with my boyfriend. it made our relationship so much stronger and as we've grown closer and more comfortable with eachother the sex the sex is getting better and BETTER :)
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  • Hi Wendy, you dont say how old you are, but I'm willing to guess, by your questions that your pretty young (low teens). As a father the best advise I could ever give is wait until you know the answer to the questions you have typed. The fact that you have gone to the internet for advise on this topic can put you in harms way. As a male, I can assure you, if he hasnt pressured you in 15 months he is also apprehensive. Just wait, you will know when the time is right. Good luck
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  • I had my boyfriend wait 18 months and he never pressured me at all :) sounds like u have a great guy too!
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