Former 'The Bachelor' contestants get real about the dark side of finding love on a TV show

It’s not always happily ever after.

By Jessica Chandra
Snezana Markoski, Sam Wood and Lana Jeavons-Fellows

If you’ve ever thought about going on The Bachelor in the hopes of meeting the love of your life – we’re guilty, especially after we found out Matty Johnson would be handing out roses this year – you may want to reconsider.

A few girls who’ve been on the show before have opened up about their experiences on The Bachelor – or more specifically, what happened to them when the cameras stopped rolling.

From the outset, it may look like you leave the show with heaps of new Instagram followers and some paid sponsorship deals (if not with the man himself), but according to Lana Jeavons-Fellows, Tiffany Scanlon and Rochelle Emanuel-Smith, things are not as rosy as they seem.

Lana Jeavons-Fellows

Lana was the beautiful intruder on Sam Wood’s season who made it all the way to the final two, but in the end, Sam gave his final rose to single mother Snezana Markoski, who he’s now engaged to.

Lana, who’s now in a solid relationship with Jake Meah, told news.com.au that it took a full year for her to readjust back to normal life once filming stopped. “After the show I was going out a lot, drinking a lot with girlfriends and that can get you into a negative headspace,” she explained. “I wasn’t a big drinker, but on the show you drink champagnes.”

“It took me a while to get back to normal,” she continued. “It took me a good year to get back to feeling good.”

Tiffany Scanlon

Tiffany was eliminated from Richie Strahan’s season of The Bachelor pretty early on, despite the fact she impressed him with her planking skills at the very first cocktail party, but she managed to overshadow Richie in the end, by making global headlines for falling in love with Megan Marx, one of the other women on the show.

Tiffany and Megan were together for about eight months before splitting sometime in February. After their breakup Tiffany wrote a candid blog post detailing what went wrong, and how life post-The Bachelor meant they paid more attention to things that detracted from their relationship.

“Realising that we were both very unhappy, that we hadn’t been happy for a while, and that we had lost our sense of self, we made the mutual decision to part ways; we had paid the ultimate price for sharing our relationship so publicly and putting so much pressure on it,” Tiffany wrote. She also revealed that she struggles with depression and anxiety, which she shared because “it may help some of the critics to understand just how hard all this has been and encourage those struggling to hang in there.”

Rochelle Emanuel-Smith

Rochelle was the first person in Australia to have her heart broken during a season finale of The Bachelor, when Tim Robards declared his love for Anna Heinrich instead of her.

It was only a year later, when the finale of Blake Garvey’s season was about to air, that Rochelle opened up about how devastated she had been to news.com.au. “I was crushed,” she said. “I was heartbroken about Tim, but I was like ‘it’s a guy, I can get over that’. But I was heartbroken about the situation that I got myself into and how harsh the reality of a reality show can really be.”

She even got real about what happens behind the scenes that can further fuck up someone’s emotional state, saying producers led her to believe Tim would choose her.

The final result was “one of the hardest moments” of her life because she had developed real feelings for Tim. “(It) broke my heart that when I came out of that [final rose] scene, instead of receiving huge understanding and support, there were a lot of people who said, ‘Well you knew what you were getting yourself into, that’s TV, that's reality.’ But I’m like, ‘Nah dude, it’s still real life and it’s still a real relationship.’ People just didn't understand.”