While getting shutdown on Tinder might not be as humiliating as a real-life shutdown, being blatantly ignored (rude), unmatched or responded to with a "nm, u?" can be just as painful/frustrating.
Even though we know what a catch we truly are, it can still feel pretty shitty being rejected by a match before we've even had a chance to engage in any real back-and-forth flirting.
That's why we've come up with five non-lame ways to strike-up a Tinder convo that will guarantee a reply (you're welcome):
Make it personal
Embrace your inner stalker and go deep — read your match's bio and swipe through their chosen pics for banter intel.
Usually you can get an idea of what your match is into (hopefully not gym selfies) and strike up an opener from there. If it's a topic your match is actually interested in, they'll be more likely to reply. Plus, your match will see that you've taken the time to properly reach out and know you're genuinely interested.
"I see you play soccer. I'm going to World Cup party this weekend – tell me something smart I can impress people with"
Start a GIF-off
They say a picture is worth a thousand words which means a GIF must be worth a quadrillion*.
When words fail you, why not send your match a GIF instead? Let's face it, sometimes, a waving bear/ sassy Rihanna/ creeping Kimmy K says it better than you can.
Not convinced? Tinder did the research and it turns out that messages with GIFs in them have a 30 per cent higher response rate than messages without. (I'm sold).
Ditch the niceties
FACT: Using 'Hey' as an opener is a sure way to let a conversation die before it even begins. Sure it's polite, but in the sea of inbox messages from other matches your
future husband Tinder lover has swiped right to, it can easily get lost.
If you're struggling to find any real convo starters, go for a funny pick-up line instead. The trick is to make sure it's actually funny and not at all cringe-worthy. In the weird world of online dating, being funny is ~respected~ and an easy way to test whether you and your match have a similar sense of humour.
Tip: If you're not that funny, that's what the Internet is for!
"So, for our first date, I tried to get us reservations at the library... but they were all booked. "
"Do you like Harry Potter because I adumbledore you."
Another way to capture your match's attention is to intrigue them. Get all Inception on them and open with a riddle they simple can't not answer. Once they've cracked the code, ask them to send one back and cue: flowing convo. GENIUS.
"There are a dozen eggs in a carton. Twelve people each take a single egg, but there is one egg left in the carton. How?"**
Ask your match a personal question they simply can't ignore. Either make it funny, or something about one of their profile pics e.g. where their favourite bar was in Madrid while they were there on vacay.
People are good at talking about themselves so start there and if he's worth talking to, he'll question you back.
"I've got to know – are you someone who claps when the plane lands?"
**Answer: The last person just took the whole carton with the egg still in it.
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