Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick's breakup was arguably a long time coming. Kris Jenner called for their split in the very first episode of Keeping Up with the Kardashians, back in 2007, and their rocky romance has remained a primary focus of the show since.
But despite all the fights and cheating rumors and benders over the past nine years, you were probably still rooting for them. (I know I was.) They tried so hard to make it work; they were the realest of the Kardashian couples.
Part of Kourtney and Scott's appeal was that they struggled. Did that make for good reality TV? Yes. But their ups and downs weren't enjoyable to watch for voyeuristic reasons alone; their highs and lows were what made them relatable.
A good relationship isn't a relationship between two perfect people, or even always a relationship between two compatible people. It's one in which both people give as much energy as they can to support one another.
Kourtney and Scott weren't the hazily filtered dream couple Kim and Kanye have become; they were just two messed-up people making a go of it.
If it sounds like I support the idea that a woman should ever waste her time trying to "fix" a bad boy, let me be clear: I do not.
Kourtney faced plenty of criticism for staying with Scott during some of his more destructive moments, but what was often overlooked was that she tried to make things work without becoming a doormat herself.
Kourtney seemed to understand that Scott's choices were his problem as an addict, a distinction she made abundantly clear during his infamous drunken meltdown in Las Vegas, when Scott tried to shove money into a waiter's mouth.
As Scott unravelled in the restaurant, Kris approached Kourtney and practically demanded that her daughter intervene. Kourtney declined; she was pregnant with Mason and focused only on protecting her well-being and that of her unborn child.
That didn't make her weak or a pushover. It made her a woman who knows her limits and boundaries, and who isn't afraid to use that knowledge to guide her actions. She's never tried to fix or control Scott, but to keep him from encroaching on the life she wants for herself and their children.
She's let him live as much as possible, understanding why his behaviour became more erratic after the death of his parents and allowing for the possibility that addiction and mental illness drove some of his recklessness.
Her commitment to both letting Scott be human and protecting herself was gratifying to see in an age — and on a show — where relationships are often treated as disposable.
While other KUWTK couples have been so flimsy and shallow you could only assume they were staged (Khloé and French Montanta, Kim and Kris Humphries), Kourtney and Scott have always had the sort of bond and rapport you can't fake.
Even interactions that were clearly set up by production (Scott begging for a helipad, Kourtney claiming her lifelong ambition was to become a detective who investigated art heists), Kourtney and Scott always appeared as if they were in on the joke and enjoying themselves.
They flirted. They talked about sex frankly, even if only for Scott to complain about how he wasn't getting enough. They unironically used expressions like "do me dirty."
And while Kourtney gets some criticism for being too dry or biting in her interactions with Scott, that's the way Kourtney speaks to everyone on the show, aside from her children. She has the vocal equivalent of Resting Bitch Face: Everything she says comes out extra pointed or sarcastic.
Scott may have been the "troublemaker" of the relationship, but even he seemed to do the best he could, trying counseling and rehab, until he simply couldn't anymore. And so it's with sadness that I close the door on the chapter of my life in which I was team Scottney (No idea if that's their true 'ship name, but what does it matter now?).
Losing celebrity couples like Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner, whose relationship seemed cheery and perfect, even if Ben did refer to it as "work" in an Oscar speech, is one thing; losing a couple whose relationship was messy and complicated, whose life actually showed the work?
That cuts way deeper.
Source: COSMO US