There’s A BIG debate amid the medical and wellbeing communities about supposedly different ‘styles’ of orgasm. The idea that there are a host of separate, physically distinct types of female orgasm is somewhat controversial, and there’s disagreement amongst specialists.
While we certainly know that for different people, different areas of the body can be stimulated in different ways in order to provoke a climax, it’s as yet unclear whether the type and location of stimulation actually results in a chemically or biologically different response, or whether these are just assorted ways to produce the exact same (glorious, shuddering, sighing) end. Researchers are still examining the neural pathways involved in orgasm; some believe that stimulating different bodily zones could cause different types of signals to be sent to the brain, but that’s yet to be confirmed.
Two things are certain, though: no matter what’s truly happening at a scientific level, anecdotally, scores of women describe various styles of orgasm to feel different. I welcome more input from medics that might explain precisely what’s going on – but essentially, does it really matter if it feels oh so good?!
So for now, let’s leave the science lab, and concentrate on the labia – and beyond…
1. Clitoral orgasms
The clitoris is the classic location to zone in on if you want to tease a Big O from your down-below: some studies suggest that a massive 94% of women require clitoral stimulation in order to reach climax. This ‘magic button’ is exclusively built for pleasure, and contains over 8,000 nerve endings (twice that of your standard penis), plus it’s actually around nine centimetres long – although the majority of its structure runs deep below the surface of the body.
Plenty of women find direct contact to the clitoris (especially with the hood pulled back) feels so full-on that it’s too much to handle, and can almost be painful. Slowly running a pair of lubed-up fingers either side of it and lightly squeezing them together in a pulsing rhythm can be more comfortable and sensuous.
Durex’s new Intense Gel is worth a whirl, too: massage just 1-3 small drops into and around the clitoris to create waves of cooling, warming and tingling sensations and increase blood flow to the area. Some women say this extra oomph helps them reach orgasm faster, and that their climaxes feel stronger when they do arrive.
2. G-spot orgasms
The G-spot is supposedly located 1-2 inches inside the vagina, on the front wall (so towards your bellybutton, not your spine). Some women report they have a patch of tissue there about the size of a milk bottle lid that feels rougher or puffier than the surrounding flesh, especially when they’re turned on.
Again, there’s been many a heated debate about the G-spot as a hot spot: there’s considerable doubt as to whether it exists as a true anatomic structure, although many specialists now believe that rubbing, pressing or otherwise stimulating this area targets those internal, buried parts of the clitoris I mentioned earlier – which explains why this zone feels so delicious to so many ladies.
The G-spot often responds best to fairly firm motions: to masturbate it alone, try rubbing back and forth against the area with a specially curved dildo, angled to hit the right place without you having to painfully contort your wrist. Glass sex toys can be perfect to stimulate this moan zone, too – they have enough weight and are sufficiently solid to give a nice hefty amount of pressure, plus you can chill them in the fridge or immerse them in warm water to play with temperature.
3. U-spot orgasms
The ‘U’ here stands for ‘urethral opening’. Some women report that if the area around their pee hole is very gently caressed, it can make them feel more than a wee bit wonderful (sorrynotsorry). The opening is surrounded by spongy erectile tissue that can become ‘plumped up’ or stiffer when a woman is aroused, and very sensitive to touch.
Unlike the G-spot, the U-spot tends to feel best when treated to feather light, soft touches and strokes, rather than pressure or pushing, and when the area is copiously slippery and wet, not dry and dragging. If your partner is a gent, try slicking plenty of mild water-based lubricant between your labia, and having him delicately run the head of his penis repeatedly from the entrance of the vaginal opening up to the clitoris and back again – this should feel scrumptious for both of you. This is a good lube to pick, as it contains an ingredient called Biolin, designed to support the natural bacterial balance of your genitals and harmonise with the skin’s pH.
Licking it can feel luscious, too.
4. A-spot orgasms
‘A-spot’ is short for ‘Anterior fornix erogenous zone’, a region deep inside the vaginal canal, about 2-3 inches higher than the G-spot, behind the cervix.
Not all women like to be probed, penetrated, prodded or poked this deeply, and if you do decide to strap on your headtorch and go potholing this far inside your bits ‘n’ bobs (and why not? Go forth, erotic adventurer – they’re yours to explore), care needs to be taken not to accidentally bash the cervix, as a hard knock can be pretty excruciating. However, find an A-spot touching technique that works for you, and it’s said that this zone can produce overwhelming orgasms that radiate across the entirety of the pelvis and down the legs. Oof!
Dr. Chua Chee Ann, who first began investigating and speaking about the A-spot in 1993, maintains that regular stimulation of this location can act as a therapeutic procedure to alleviate vaginal dryness by prompting the body to begin producing much more natural moisture. He advocates applying pressure to the area with fingers, and making a ‘scooping’ or ‘come hither’ motion over and over, for 10 minutes each day.
And now for something completely fresh! ASMR – Autonomous sensory meridian response – is a tingling, hugely pleasant shivery, hair-standing-on-end sensation that spontaneously spreads from the scalp down the back of the neck, across the shoulders and down the spine. Many people find it both relaxing and exciting, describing it as feeling like a ‘skin orgasm’ or a ‘head-gasm’… and it can be induced by listening to certain soft, whispery, tapping or crackling sounds through headphones.
There are umpteen ASMR videos on YouTube (warning: some of them get pretty weird, as certain visual elements and role playing scenarios are also known to enhance the pleasurable sensations for lots of ASMR fans). A good meditative, chilled out place to start is on the WhispersRed ASMR channel, where they produce trigger sounds or pretend to give a massage or a haircut. Sounds odd, but feels great – what have you got to lose?
Alix is Durex's Sex & Relationships Expert.
Via: Cosmopolitan UK