Sex

Guys answer all your most important questions about cunnilingus

Three brave men tell all about going down.

By Hannah Smothers
what do guys think when they go down on you?

For an activity that relies heavily on using your mouth, people don't talk enough about oral sex — and especially not cunnilingus. I get it, I get it. It's a ~sensitive~ subject. But all that silence leaves a lot of unanswered questions, questions that deserve good answers! Three brave twentysomething men took it upon themselves to deliver the cunnilingus answers the world deserves.

Do you want or expect directions from a partner while you're giving oral sex?
Man A, 25: I love it actually. I want to get better at it, duh!
Man B, 24: I don't expect anything, but if there is something they want specifically or differently I will gladly accept directions.
Man C, 24: Directions are always helpful.

How does it make you feel when someone gives you explicit directions?
Man A: It's all about delivery. You can't just be like, "This is bad and you should feel bad!" I prefer physical directions, like, literally put your hands on my head.
Man B: It makes my life easier and I'm happy to oblige.
Man C: I kind of like being told what to do, but not if it gets down to her saying stuff like, "Three licks up and two licks left," or something like that.

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How long do you ideally like to spend going down on someone?
Man A: I like to go until she finishes, but sometimes you can really give it your all for a long time and it's just not happening. Sometimes she'll say something like, "Oh, I never come from that," but I wonder if that's just a polite, "You're not doing very well and I don't feel comfortable tell you how to do it better for me.
Man B: Usually till they orgasm.
Man C: 'Til they get their first O.

Do you get frustrated if someone takes a long time to orgasm?
Man A: Of course not! If anything, I start to feel self-conscious. And my mouth gets tired.
Man B: No, although I feel unaccomplished if I can't give them an orgasm.
Man C: Not at all, just tells me there's room for improvement on my part.

Do you feel like you're expected to go down on a woman partner?
Man A: Completely depends on the partner. In general, though, I will attempt to reciprocate if I’m given head. Actually, I'll usually try anyway. I really get turned on by the reaction. My last two partners have stopped me when I tried to venture down there. That’s been new for me.
Man B: I think they tend to hope for it.
Man C: Not really but I like doing it.

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If you've ever said someone "tastes good," did you really mean it or was it just something nice you said?
Man A: I’ve never said that someone tastes good.
Man B: If I say it unprompted, then I mean it. If I'm asked, I will probably say yes regardless of truth.
Man C: I definitely mean it but not in a Jeffrey Dahmer kind of way.