14 steps to becoming a truly ~independent woman~

Solid life advice: Do these things. Stat.


In this day and age, there's a lot of pride in being an Independent Woman.

Firstly, and most obviously, men can be total shits, so having to rely on them in any way, shape or form does not make for a smart life plan.

But there's also a lot of joy in doing things without an SO because they're safer, easier and more fun than ever before. Whether it's travelling, living, saving, clubbing – whatever, really - there's a lot to be said for achieving things solo and being #responsible.

So educate yourself in these 14 things any independent woman does on the reg. Or, because we should all make like Destiny's Child circa 2001, think of it more as a to-do list:

1. Accept the fact that you don't need a man

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LBR - nobody does. You do you first and foremost, and if someone worthy of sharing that with you comes along, then they've lucked out.

2. Travel solo

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Every woman should travel somewhere alone at some point in their life. It's the best possible opportunity to learn about yourself, push yourself outside of that damn comfort zone, and most importantly, do whatever the hell you want to do.

Our suggestion? Go it solo with Contiki's new Independent Insider Portugal Trip where you can do you, but also have the opportunity to meet like-minded people from all over the globe! Why not SOTTP your way around Spain and Portugal for some beachside bliss?


3. Buy yourself flowers

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No rose ceremonies for you, Glen Coco! Unfortunately this is real life and, as we've already attested, men are shit. So treat yo' self instead, you deserve it.

4. Go to dinner & movies alone

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Buy tickets to whatever you want to see (there's nobody to argue with) and splash out on a family-sized bag of Maltesers (there's nobody there to judge!) at the movies and commence LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE.

Also, sitting alone in a restaurant is something every woman should try once, no matter how self-conscious you may feel about it. Just grab a book and enjoy your own company. You're the best, after all!

5. Support other women

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This goes without saying. If you're not doing it already, check yourself.

6. Never give fuckbois a second chance

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Boy, bye.

7. Always jump at the chance to learn new things

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French lessons, cooking school, life drawing classes; push your limits and NEVER be afraid of a challenge. Channel your inner Khaleesi and visit Giant's Causeway (IRL) or take on one of Contiki's other epic adventures.

You never regret trying things. Never trying them, however...

8. Be sure AF in your decisions

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Be confident in what you think is right and (cringe alert!) ~follow your heart~. Sure, listening to advice from people you trust is always a smart move, but be sure to go with your gut sometimes, too. It's smarter than you think.

9. Never wait for a guy's txt or call

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Scientific fact*: The more you look at your phone, the less likely it is to buzz.

Instead of waiting for Tinderguy#275 to get in touch, why not just bloody text him? Or if there's even an inkling that he might be an aforementioned fuckboi, DON'T.

Dating is an inevitable minefield and there's not much any of us can do about that, so don't waste your days stressing about the illusive text back. If it comes, it comes. If it doesn't? He was probably an idiot anyway.

*Not a scientist.

10. Stop giving an eff what other people think of you

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You are a damn kween, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

11. Set career goals and don't stop striving for them

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We're not going to sit here and tell you that you're going to succeed in every single thing on your Life Wish List. Sure, you might, but it's also NBD if you don't. Goals are goals for a reason - they're not easy to achieve. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't have them, or that you should give up on them.

Complacency is never a good thing, so if you start feeling it, start striving.

12. Be OK with staying in on a Friday or Saturday night

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FOMO is a waste of time and the laws of probability state that tonight probably won't be the night you'll meet Mr or Mrs Right. So park that fine ass on the couch and enjoy your own company. As we've repeatedly told you, YOU'RE AWESOME. So bask in that, will ya.

13. Work hard to support yourself

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While it's nice to be treated to dinner, you should never need to be.

14. Back yourself

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MORE CRINGE ALERT: ~If you don't believe in yourself, why should anyone else?~

Cliché? Absolutely. But who are we to question the eternal wisdom of Khloe Kardashian?

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